I was reading an article about affairs. The author said the betrayed shouldn’t be surprised they have been cheated on, that having an affair is the norm not an anomaly. At first I was angry about that statement. After some thought and continuing with the article, I realized the author was simply stating the obvious, we are selfish and monogamy is not easy. Part of our challenge in life is saying no to things we may desire in order to say yes to ultimately healthier options. When I was having an affair, I was not saying no to an illicit relationship and unfortunately not saying yes to my marriage.
I have a friend who, at times in her life, practices saying no. She prays about what she believes God wants her to say no to and then abstains for a month. What I like about this is the element of surrender. She recognizes her natural inclination is to deny herself nothing, then voluntarily goes to her knees and surrenders the “self”. At first it seemed strange but now, I see the beauty in it.
Are you choosing something in your life today that is indicative of the purely selfish part of you? Want to be different? Surrender.